DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my girlfriend and I are in bed we talk dirty about having sex with others. We both find it a real turn on.
But I want to take it further and swing in real life. I am 35 and she is 33.
We did once go on to a swinging website but she didn’t want to take it any further. Whenever I ask her to give it a go, she changes the subject or point blank refuses.
We have been together for six years and our sex life is fantastic. But over the last couple of years I have started to get frustrated.
I feel like I am missing out on a whole world of excitement. How can I get her involved? Is she just teasing me by talking about it and then refusing me the real deal?
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DEIDRE SAYS: I am afraid if your girlfriend doesn’t want to go swinging, you will have to accept this.
No one should be forced to do anything they are uncomfortable with.
And as swinging definitely doesn’t come under the heading of “socially distanced exercise” it should be avoided to stop the spread of coronavirus.
In addition, having sex with people when you know nothing about their sexual history is risky.
For some alternative ideas on how to spice up your love life, I am sending you my support pack, 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex.
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